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I should be doing laundry.
I should be sewing items for my shop.
I should be knitting.
I should be emptying the dishwasher.
I should be helping my mom.
I should be 15 pounds thinner.
I should be running.
I should be eating more vegetables.
I should be more patient with my kids.
I should be doing more for my husband.
I should be on top of things!!!
Do you ever get the should bes?
I try to be mindful of the moment that I live in. But it’s hard to prevent the should bes from creeping in.
I even had a bit of a meltdown the other day. And, of course, I felt guilty about that!
We rarely cut ourselves a break.
But I was exhausted form the holiday week, worried about getting my son back to college with an impending snowstorm, and thinking about all the should bes.
SHOULD BEs
How do you manage them?
What are your best time management tips?
I’d love to hear them!
One thing at a time – we’re not superwomen and I don’t think that God intended for us to be. As my husband and I say, you do the best you can and that’s all you can do.
So, that’s what I do. 🙂
Oh Jane, I’m an expert at the “should bes” I am trying to remember to be gentle with myself. It’s so easy to think of all the things you wish you were. I’m trying to treat myself more like I treat my friends. When a friend tells me all of her “should bes”, I quickly point out all of the wonderful things she does/is! Let’s encourage ourselves a little more, just like we do for others!
btw…I think you are pretty fantastic (and all of us have our bad moments)! A real friend is always better than a perfect friend:)
Elizabeth
Man, do I ever get the should-be’s!! I try to prioritize, compartmentalize, and otherwise not drive myself nuts but I still get them. I have no advice for managing them. It seems that every day more and more things tug at my time…..let me know if you figure it all out! 😀
Take some time each day to read, meditate, reflect, think or just breathe. The shoulda’, woulda’, coulda’ stuff is going to creep in-I just try to keep it at bay a bit!
I can tell you from experience that we definitely expect ourselves to be super human. Your list is to much for you to do. You will burn yourself out if you try to do all that. All these tips are good, the best is to take the task ONLY when it’s in front of you. Those are the most pressing. When Mom needs help, she’ll ask. When DH/kids need love, you’ll know. And as for patients with kids? Are you looking for sainthood?
I can totally relate, I “should be” myself constantly. I would like to shut it off in my brain. I actually think I would accomplish what I want if I didn’t spend so much time “shoulding myself”. Maybe that is the solution. I should not be should not-ing myself. Lol Have a good day.
I have a terrible case of the “should be’s”! My husband credits my Catholic upbringing and inability to make choices that only benefit myself. If you figure it out, lemme know sister!
Knowing that I’m only one person, I only have so much time and I can only do so many things is what gives me peace. I know that no matter what, the most important thing I can do right now is take care of/teach/spend time with our foster baby. He’s at a pivotal stage in his develop and needs lots of time and attention so he can grow and develop accordingly. He’s the most important thing right now.
Having the right priorities also helps. But along with the right priorities, I also have a good schedule for myself. I can’t pass on my schedule to you, you have to find that on your own. But whatever you’re doing, do it wholeheartedly. Putting your focus on that. Or don’t bother doing it at all.
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haha that’s ME! I always have a case of the ‘should be’s!’ In fact, I should be working on my narratives right now. lol. I should be knitting too. I should also be teaching myself how to crochet. 😉 Don’t get me started with my own should be’s. I wake up with them. 😛 They will get done eventually.
I totally struggle with this and I am always trying to do more than I realistically have time for. LOL. Prioritizing helps.
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